I had an interesting day. I'll skip all the stuff that doesn't matter and get to the point. I went out to see an old friend, and she was such a hermit. She didn't come out and say hi until fifteen minutes after finding out I was there, and then she scuttled back to her room. Eventually she came out, spoke to me for five minutes, then went into the pool and didn't even notice when I left.
I know I qualify as a guest, and therefore maybe someone she wants to avoid, but I was an old friend of hers and I thought she would be more sociable. She likes to be in her room a lot, like me, but when I get company I go out there and be with them. When my aunts came, we did everything together except our bowel move-ments. We went shopping, we went to restaurants, we gabbed and we played games. I don't demand attention like a prissy little bitch, but I thought we would talk. That's why we had planned this visit.
Whatever. I'm gonna go have a smoothie.
I know I qualify as a guest, and therefore maybe someone she wants to avoid, but I was an old friend of hers and I thought she would be more sociable. She likes to be in her room a lot, like me, but when I get company I go out there and be with them. When my aunts came, we did everything together except our bowel move-ments. We went shopping, we went to restaurants, we gabbed and we played games. I don't demand attention like a prissy little bitch, but I thought we would talk. That's why we had planned this visit.
Whatever. I'm gonna go have a smoothie.
If she's under thirty years old, she probably has a cell phone and can't put the bloody thing down...so many people are like that these days...and young people seem to be especially bad.
ReplyDeleteShe does have a cell phone, but she wasn't touching it.
ReplyDeleteMom thinks things will be different if they come here, instead; where they don't have the comforts of home. They might actually have to socialize. If things don't go well, again, I think I'm going to just give up.
I don't blame you for thinking about giving up - I don't like to socialize, either, but I think even I know when 'quiet' becomes 'rude' - which isn't to say I don't cross the line with people I know, just that I'm more careful around people I don't know well, who don't understand that I just don't like to talk.
DeleteMaybe something bad happened and she was upset; maybe she wasn't feeling well . . . she's about 15 now, right?
I gave up on Deanna, too. Long ago. Sometimes things don't last, and usually it's okay.
I don't mind talking, if I like the person. But she didn't care I was visiting; or at least that's how it seemed. And after 20 years of being abandoned by people who I thought liked me, I think I know what rejection is.
DeleteTrue, maybe something bad did happen. I'm not my usual pleasant self when I'm not feeling well, or reacting to something stressful. But she seemed perfectly happy when she wasn't near me.
I was sorry to hear about you and Deanna. I thought the two of you were much closer than I was with any of my friends; who probably only hung out with me because our parents all hung out. Probably talking about how great it was their kids were friends while we sat in a room, hoping the visit would be over soon.
I don't know. Maybe she does want to be my friend and I'm just being a negative cuss.
I know what you mean, I feel as though I know rejection too...and I'm sorry to hear it just didn't go well :(
DeleteIt wasn't too bad, but I just think I know now what friendship is and that what I had with her never counted - thinking back, I can't say I ever knew anything about her. If a friend is someone you want to talk to and can talk to about anything, someone you can count on, then we weren't friends; we just weren't that close. At best, I think we were people who saw each other once in a while, like cousins minus the family connection...
I don't mind; I have a great family and I'm going to marry my best friend, so it's all good :)
Sad, how some things don't work out.
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